"Mo Better" Inspiration by Sheila: Help, I'm Stuck and I Can't Get Up!

"Mo Better" Inspiration by Sheila: Help, I'm Stuck and I Can't Get Up!: "Have you ever been stuck, I mean really stuck and had the most difficult time getting up? You can't get out of bed; you can't go to work, ca..."

Help, I'm Stuck and I Can't Get Up!

Have you ever been stuck, I mean really stuck and had the most difficult time getting up? You can't get out of bed; you can't go to work, can't think straight and even performing the simple everyday tasks for survival becomes difficult. You begin to realize it is not as some would describe procrastination, it is simply Life. When you are in a Life mood, suddenly unimportant things seem to take precedence over important things. There are times when you want to do nothing at all or everything, except what you should be doing. These Life moods will often take you further and further away from your goals and even your purpose.

So, what is keeping you down? Why is it that you can't get up? Are you sunken in debt? Are you in the midst of a physical or mental challenge, marriage, divorce or has life simply been unfair to you? Don't despair; we all need help at some point in our lives to move beyond situations that are stalling our progress. Sadly, some of us stay in that position for too long. We wander around looking for something we can do to quench our thirst or find our way and neglect to go within to find a special purpose for which we can truly live.

I pray this article gives you a nudge and pulls you back in place before you get too far out. I know some of you may be fighting and kicking, but remain steadfast and listen to the voice that says, "In spite of what you are going through, come alive, get up now and get in tune with your spirit." I was in a stuck mold, which is why I am writing. Writing is good therapy for me and I want to share with you how I moved from stuck to action. First, I wrote down five things that were important or significant for me to make a difference in my life or the life of someone else. Second, I placed the list in order of significance with the least important at the bottom. None of the items had to do with work or money because while finding work is a goal, working is not a life goal. Having money certainly has privileges, but does not change your internal spirit. The revealing factors on your list do not have to be grand or elaborate, only realistic. The top item on your list is actually what you should be doing at this very moment to move from stuck to action. This item is your vision. You want to bring your vision to life so that you will have victory over being stuck. While my recommendation may be viewed as a simple process, there are times when one word, a gesture or brief note can be meaningful to energize us.

This is a process you can begin today. You don't have to save your hopes and dreams for the beginning of the New Year when resolutions go in full force. There is no need to stay in a stuck situation when you can resolve to change your life today. My prayer for you is to have a Victory Season!

"Mo Better" Inspiration by Sheila: What happened to Black Love?

"Mo Better" Inspiration by Sheila: What happened to Black Love?: "The state of black love is at a critical all time low. The values that used to keep us together have faded and we now rely on media and cele..."

What happened to Black Love?

The state of black love is at a critical all time low. The values that used to keep us together have faded and we now rely on media and celebrities to tell us what we should do, how we should do it and who we should do it with. The love we once shared was part of our strong commitment to family, but the black family has become over 50% headed by black women and in many instances the father is rarely or never around. As a result, we now have broken family structures that are in such bad conditions they have produced a whole new generation who without love or a demonstration of love have become cold-hearted, lackluster and ruthless.

The breakdown of black love is deeply rooted in men and women allowing the world to tell them how and who to love. Some of it is subliminal, but very powerful in the separation of black love. For instance, black athletics parade around with so-called trophy wives and girlfriends (mostly always white) as a demonstration of what they believe is success. This action by a few men has helped create an epidemic among black men and further separates black love as they often create a negative image of black women, while painting a positive image of white women without regard to the black mothers and grandmothers who raised them with love. This type of conduct helps to strip black women of their true value.

Black women also share in the breakdown of black love. With all the responsibility we have, we cannot afford to allow worldly pleasures to distract us from our family responsibilities. We are often so starved for love, we have lost our self-respect. Black women who are heads of households continue to have babies out of wedlock which they cannot support. We have become so self-indulged that we spend much of our time on our own pleasures like hair, clothes and social activities; we neglect our children, spouses and households. The high obesity rate among black women leads to disease, depression and may limit our opportunities for love and companionship, particularly since we are being judged by other people’s standards.

While there are many reasons for the separation of black love, in my opinion, some of the keys to bringing black love together again are positive communication, submission, respect, honesty and God. The world did not make us, we succumbed to worldly desires. If we replace worldly desires with matters of the heart, we can move in a direction that opens the door to addressing the issues that keep us apart. When we point our finger, make sure the direction goes towards you first. We have to correct our own faults and insecurities and then we can successfully relate to each other. In the words of the songwriter, let’s get back to you, let’s get back to us, let’s get back to love.

What We Should Learn from Sherry Sherrod?

This has been a challenging time for a dynamic lady named Shirley Sherrod. She gets my vote for "Woman of the Year" as she was steadfast in defending her position in the face of tremendous adversity and did not break. Shirley Sherrod was the director of rural development in Georgia for the Department of Agriculture who was forced to resign from her job when remarks she made at a local NAACP program about black and poor farmers some twenty-four years ago in a video were deliberately and intentionally clipped and released by reporter, Andrew Breitbart on a conservative website. It's extremely disturbing that without a thorough investigation of the facts, top officials and media including White House representatives, Agriculture Secretary Tom Vilsack, NAACP President Ben Jealous, Roland Martin (who typically gets it right) and many others who supported the fiasco almost ruined the reputation of an outstanding woman who has spent her life fighting for civil rights.

Some things we should learn from Shirley Sherrod's situation and the actions of leaders who condemned her are.
 Stand firm on your beliefs, particularly when your integrity is being challenged.
 Be gracious at all times.
 Fear has no place in righteousness.
 Find a way to turn an adverse situation into a positive one.
 Be prepared to defend your position.
 Learn how to apologize gracefully.
 Always investigate and get facts before you make or write public statements about anyone.

Although the media and most important the leaders who convicted Sherry Sherrod publicly have apologized, the road to recovery is a long one. The origin of this latest embarrassing and sadly unfortunate incident is deeply rooted in the racism that continues to divide the country. Mrs. Sherrod was a victim of devious and unethical reporting that was intended to produce negativity towards the NAACP. Possibly the only positives about this situation is the world was exposed to the plight of black and poor farmers and we got to meet and see a true women of honor, Sherry Sherrod.